It is essential to know that sins and acts of disobedience are, necessarily, very harmful. Their harm effects upon the heart are akin to the harmful effects of poison upon the body, though the effects vary in their levels and intensities. So is there any evil or harm in this world, or in the Hereafter, except that it is due to sins and disobedience?
So what was it that expelled the two parents [i.e. Adam and Eve] from Paradise; the home of delight, bliss, splendor and joy; to the home of pain, sorrow and misfortune?
What was it that expelled Iblees [i.e. Satan] from the heavenly realms, causing him to be rejected and cursed; transforming him both inwardly and outwardly, so that his form became ugly and hideous – his inner form more hideous than his outer – replacing his nearness with remoteness, mercy with curse, his beauty with ugliness, from being in Paradise to being in the blazing Fire, from having faith to being an unbeliever, from having the patronage and friendship of Allaah, the Praiseworthy Guardian, to being the greatest enemy and opponent, from glorifying and praising Him to committing acts of unbelief, shirk, lies, deception and shamelessness, from being adorned with faith to being clothed in the garment of unbelief, sinfulness and disobedience, causing him to reach the deepest depths of despicability, plunging down in the sight of Allaah as far as it is possible to plunge; causing the anger of Allaah the Exalted to be upon him, making him an outcast – despised and humiliated – so that he became a leader for every sinner and criminal, becoming pleased with leadership for himself, after having reached the station of worship and nobility?
“O Allaah, we seek refuge in You from opposing Your command and falling into what You have forbidden.”
- What was it that caused the people of the earth to drown, to the extent that the water rose above even the mountaintops?
- What was it that caused the violent winds to overcome the people of ‘Aad, such that it flung them down dead upon the face of the earth – as if they were lopped-off palm trunks – and it destroyed whatever dwellings and crops it came across, thus making them an example for nations until the Day of Resurrection?
- What was it that caused the piercing shrieks to be set loose upon the Thamood people, such that their hearts were severed within their very bodies, by which they all perished?
- What was it that caused the town of the homosexuals to be raised up and turned upside down, such that they were all destroyed? Then stones from the sky pelted down upon them so that they suffered a combined punishment, the like of which was not given to any other nation! And for their brothers will be its like; and it is not far off from the transgressors!
- What was it that caused the clouds of punishment to overcome the people of Shu’ayb, such that when these clouds were above their heads it rained scorching fire upon them?
- What was it that caused the Pharaoh and his people to be drowned in the ocean, and caused their souls to be transported to the Hellfire, so their bodies drowned and their souls burned?
- What was it that caused Qaaroon, his dwelling, wealth and family to sink down into the earth?
- What was it that caused the destruction of those generations after Noah, and how they were afflicted with various punishments that caused their annihilation?
- What was it that caused the destruction of the companions of Yaa Seen, with the clamorous shout, which destroyed them?
- What caused there to be sent against the Children of Israa’eel enemies of great strength and might, plundering their homes, killing their men, enslaving their women and children, burning their dwellings, seizing their wealth, and then returning again a second time, destroying what was rebuilt after the first onslaught?
- What was it that caused the various types of punishments to be set loose upon the Children of Israa’eel? Killing them, enslaving them, destroying their land and at times causing them to be oppressed by kings, whilst at another time causing them to be transformed into apes and swine – and finally the Lord took an oath that:
“He would certainly keep on sending against them, until the Day of Resurrection, those who will inflict them with a humiliating torment.”
[Soorah al-A’raaf 7:167]
Imam Ahmad said: al-Waleed ibn Muslim related to us; that Safwaan ibn ‘Amr related to us; that ‘Abdur-Rahmaan ibn Jubayr ibn Nufayr related; from his father, who said:
“When Cyprus was conquered and its people were dispersed and they started weeping to each other, I saw Abud-Dardaa sitting alone and weeping. So I said to him: O Abud-Dardaa! What makes you weep on this day that Allaah has granted strength and honor to Islaam and its people? So he said: Woe be to you O Jubayr! How insignificant the creation becomes to Allaah when they turn away from His command. In front of us is a nation who were evidently powerful and who had dominion, yet they abandoned Allaah’s command, so look what has become of them.”
 ‘Alee ibn al-Ja’d said: Shu’bah ibn ‘Amr ibn Murrah informed us; I heard Abul-Bukhtaree say:I was informed by someone, who heard the Prophet (sallalalhu alaihi wa-sallam) saying:
“The people will not perish, until they have no excuse left for themselves.”
 Imaam Ahmad reports in his Musnad, from the hadeeth of Umm Salamah, who said: I heard Allaah’s Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) saying:
“When acts of disobedience become widespread in my Ummah, then Allaah may send punishment upon them all from Himself” So I said: O’ Allaah’s Messenger! Even if there are righteous people amongst them that day? So he replied: “Indeed!” So I said: How will that be? He replied: “They will be afflicted with what afflicts the people, then they will move on to the forgiveness of Allaah and His good pleasure.” 
 Ad-Daa’ wad-Dawaa’ (pp.65-67).
 Reported by Imaam Ahmad in az-Zuhd (i/86) with an authentic (saheeh) chain of narration
 Reported by Ahmad (4/260) and Abu Daawood (no.4347) with an authentic chain of narration.
 Reported by Ahmad (6/304) and one of its narrators is Layth ibn Abee Sulaym, who is weak. However the hadeeth is established due to further supporting narrations. Consult Silsilatul-Ahaadeethus-Saheehah (no.1372) of Shaykh al-Albaanee
“While I was taking part in a Ghazwa (battle). I heard ‘Abdullaah ibn ‘Ubayy (ibn Abi Salool) saying. ‘Do not spend on those who are with Allaah’s Messenger, that they may disperse and go away from him. If we return (to Medina), surely, the more honorable will expel the meaner amongst them.’ I reported that (saying) to my uncle(1) or to ‘Umar who, in his turn, informed the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, of it. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, called me and I narrated to him the whole story. Then Allah’s Messenger, peace and blessings be upon him, sent for ‘Abdullaah ibn ‘Ubayy and his companions, and they took an oath that they did not say that. So Allaah’s Messenger, peace and blessings be upon him, disbelieved my saying and believed his. I was distressed as I never was before. I stayed at home and my uncle said to me. ‘You got nothing of this except Allah’s Messenger disbelieved your statement and hated you.’ So Allaah revealed (the Soorah (a chapter) of the Noble Quran beginning with) ‘When the hypocrites come to you.’ [Al-Munaafiqoon 63:1] The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, then sent for me and recited it and said, ‘O Zaiy! Allaah confirmed your statement.”(2)
Amongst the lessons drawn from the above-mentioned Hadeeth are:
1- An-Nawawi, may Allaah have mercy upon him, said: “It is obligatory for the one who hears something related to the Imaam (leader or governor of Muslims) or the like of the great people in authority and expects that this will cause harm to Muslims to inform them (those who are in authority) with it so that they may be careful of it and take the necessary precautions.
Furthermore, Ibn Hajar, may Allaah have mercy upon him, said: “It is not to be deemed dispraised Nameemah (carrying tales to circulate slanderous rumors between two persons to damage or sever the ties between them) unless he intends to cause absolute corruption by doing so. However, if this implies a benefit that dominates over the corruption, it will not(3) as it can be observed in this incident.
2- Not holding the prominent figures in society by minor mistakes so that their followers may not turn away from them, confining to blaming them and accepting their excuses, believing in their oaths, even if the evidences indicate the opposite of this for this implies intimacy and affection.
3- The great morals of the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, his perfect patience towards the harm caused to him and his great ability of enduring for the Sake of Allaah The Almighty, expecting His immense reward.
4- It indicates the great virtues and merits of Zay ibn Arqam, may Allaah be pleased with him, because verses of the Noble Quran were sent down to prove his truthfulness.
5- Maliciousness, wickedness and plots of the hypocrites against Islam and Muslims.
1) It was said he is ‘Abdullaah ibn Rawaahah, may Allaah be pleased with him, because he was his stepfather while his real paternal uncle is Thaabit ibn Qays, may Allaah be pleased with him.
2) Reported in Saheeh Al-Bukhaari no. (4617) and Saheeh Muslim no. (2772).
3) An-Nawawi; Sharh Saheeh Muslim (17/120).
Alhamdulillaah, a unique, a generous and a honorable guest is knocking at our door….a guest that visits us once a year and brings with it immeasurable blessings and happiness. A guest that brings with it the wide Mercy and Forgiveness of Allah. A guest that brings with it the smell of Jannah and the sweetness of Imaan….
That special guest, of course, is Ramadhaan.
Ramadhaan is the month of the Qur’aan, the month of Mercy, the month of Forgiveness, the month of making dua and prayer at night, of Iftaar and Suhoor.
And, insha Allaah most of us are going to be fasting.
However, it is HOW we will be fasting that is of utmost importance.
Some of us will be fasting by staying away from food, drink….but, alas, it will be just that and no more…..
Because they will not keep their hands from committing evil and their tongues from committing evil and their eyes and ears from committing evil.
The Prophet (Sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam) said: “Whoever does not give up false speech and acting upon it, Allaah has no need of his giving up his food and drink.” (Bukhaari: 10/473)
And the Prophet (Sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam) also said: “It may be that the fasting person gets nothing from his fast apart from hunger, and it may be that the one who prays qiyaam at night may get nothing from his qiyaam but a sleepless night.” (Narrated by Ahmad (8693); classed as saheeh by Ibn Hibban (8/257) and by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Targheeb (1/262).And some of us will be fasting, not only staying away from food and drink, etc., but also watching our ears, eyes, tongue, hands and feet and keeping them away from sin. And this is definitely better than the first kind of fasting.
And then there is the third and best kind of fasting….the kind of fasting that Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta’ala loves and will be pleased with…..the kind of fasting we ALL should aim for and strive for.
And that is the fasting of the HEART
The fasting of the heart is done by emptying it of all evil, all corruption.
It means getting rid, from our hearts, all forms of shirk, bid’ah, false beliefs, evil thoughts, filthy intentions and immoral ideas.
In fact, the fasting heart is only, and only, filled with the love of Allaah and the desire to please Him.
Its intention is pure, for the sake of Allaah, Alone.
It corrects its Aqeedah and rejects all doubts and false forms of worship.
It stays away from greed, envy, enmity and pride.
It stays away from arguments, gossip and gheebah.
It rejects stinginess and extravagance.
It places complete trust in Allaah, full of patience and serenity.
It doesn’t hold any grudges, anger or hatred.
It readily forgives anyone and everyone, no matter how much harm or grief they caused it.
It is free of deception, slyness and hypocrisy.
It is conscious of Allaah throughout the day and night, doing its utmost to do good deeds and staying away from all that is haraam….. aware of every thought that crosses his mind, every word that he utters, every action that he commits, lest it be displeasing to his Creator, the Almighty.”
The fasting heart is generous and kind…..eager to give in the path of Allaah, not only the obligatory Zakaah, but extra acts of charity, of money and time and effort, with the intention of pleasing Allaah alone, hoping for a reward from Him.
Its day is spent in complete obedience to Allaah and its night in humble prayer.
At the time of Iftaar, such a heart is overwhelmed with gratitude and thankfulness to the Lord, Almighty for providing him with such abundant food, such immense blessings..
When this heart recites the Qur’aan, it is completely softened and totally overcome by the Power of the Words of the Almighty….understanding them, contemplating over them, determined to implement them in his life.
When the fasting heart stands in front of Allaah, it stands with utmost humility, eyes downcast, trembling with modesty, ashamed of its deeds, submitting completely to His Will.
It spontaneously exclaims…..
Yaa Allaah, I will no longer be a slave to MY whims and desires. Rather, I am a slave to YOU, O Allaah. My desires, my excuses don’t count anymore. From now on, I submit ONLY to what YOU order me to do.
And as it stands for prayer, it does so, full of love for the Almighty….full of awe and Khushoo’.…full of fear of His Wrath….and yet, full of hope for His Mercy.
As this heart listens to the recitation of the Qur’aan in Taraweeh, tears overflow from it. Uncontrollable tears of repentance….tears of regret and remorse, for all its previous deeds….all its previous sins….all its previous mistakes.
It cries out……
Yaa Allaah, You are the Most Forgiving, Most Merciful……forgive me!
I regret all my prior mistakes! I repent to you and I return to you!
This heart vows to do its utmost best from now on. It promises Allaah to obey Him to the best of his ability, resolving to stay away from sin, determined to set his life aright.
O Brothers and Sisters in Islaam,
Are there any hearts out there that are willing to fast like that……???
The heart of the believer fasts during Ramadhaan and outside of Ramadhaan.
It is from the immense mercy of Allah upon us that He made us Muslims and believers and that He extends our lives till we reach this Ramadhaan.
It is reported that the Sahaabah used to pray to Allah during the six months before Ramadhaan to extend their lives so that they can reach Ramadhaan, and in the 6 months after Ramadhaan, they would pray to Allaah to accept their fasting of Ramadhaan.
So take this great opportunity that Allaah, the Most Merciful has provided you with.
Make the most of the upcoming opportunity and don’t let it pass you by.
FAST THIS RAMADHAAN WITH YOUR HEART.
The Khutbah had already started. She knew that she was late, but she wanted to attend the Jumuah prayers anyway. She quickly picked up her baby and stepped anxiously into the Masjid, looking to the right and the left. After all, this was the first time she was here; she had just moved to the area and didn’t know anybody.
As she sat down in the Sister’s Prayer Hall with the baby in her lap, her heart was thumping in her chest. She could feel curious eyes turn in her direction, but she stared hard at the ground, too nervous to meet their gaze and tried to concentrate on what the Imam was saying.
But her baby was nervous too. He didn’t know this new place….all these new faces, all the curious eyes. He had never been in a Masjid before. He wanted to go home.
She knew her baby would be uncomfortable in the new setting, but she thought she could manage. She herself had not been very ‘practicing’ all her life, but now that she was a mother herself, she felt the importance of an Islaamic upbringing. She was determined to teach her baby all about this religion right from the very beginning, but first she had to work on herself. She wanted to learn, too. She decided that the best place to start learning about Islaam would be the masjid, and this was her first visit.
But the baby was getting restless and she could see that he had already started to whimper. Yet, she hoped she could console him long enough to last through the Prayer. However, much to her dismay, just as the Imam finished the khutbah and said, “Allaahu Akbar,” her baby started crying. At first it was low wail and a whine, but then he let it all out. And she was certainly not prepared for the ear-splitting howl that followed, nor the hysterically loud sobbing that accompanied it.
Oh my GOD! What a terrible noise he was making!
What should I do??!! What can I do??!!! She thought to herself, panicking.
She didn’t want to break her prayer!
She tried to pick him up, but he was squirming too much!
She realized that he was wailing loudly, but there was nothing much she could really do.
“After all, he WAS a baby!” she said to herself. “I am sure they all understand.”
She wished that the prayer would be over quickly so that she could console her baby.But before the Imam had hardly finished saying the ‘Salaam’, that they all jumped on her!
“WHY DON’T YOU KEEP THE BABY QUIET!”, they screamed! “DON’T YOU SEE WE ARE PRAYING?”
“Why did you come to the Masjid?” Someone muttered, grinding her teeth.
“STAY HOME, NEXT TIME!” Another one hissed.
…I’m so sorry.” she whispered.
With her head bent low, her eyes downcast, she blinked hard to fight back the tears that suddenly welled up in her eyes………as she tried so hard to swallow the HUGE lump in her throat.
She thought this was the Masjid….this was the place where she and her baby would be welcome…..this was the place she wanted to be……to learn Islaam and to teach it to her child!
How can they be so mean to her like that?!!Didn’t they realize that it wasn’ t her fault that the baby started crying!
Without saying a single word more, she hurriedly gathered her things, picked up her baby and quickly left the Masjid,
WITHOUT EVEN ONCE LOOKING BACK……
Now let’s go back to another scenario……1400 years ago…..in a better time…..in a better place…..in another Masjid…..when a Bedouin enters the Masjid and begins urinating in it.
The Sahabah want to stop him, but what does the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam) do???
Does he shout at him? Does he kick him out of the Masjid?
Instead, he (Sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam) kindly calls the bedouin to him and gently makes him understand that the masaajid are not places meant for urine and filth, but are only for the remembrance of Allaah, prayer and the recitation of the Qur’aan. He (Sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam) then asks one of the people to pour a bucket of water over it. (Muslim) And what did he tell the Sahaabah? He (Sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam) said to them:
“You are sent to make things easy and not to make things difficult” (Bukhaari).
This illustrates for us the perfect example of how OUR behavior should have been. It shows us an unwavering principle of Islaam, that is, if in our social life, when any unpleasant incident takes place, we should keep our cool and show tolerance and patience. We should concentrate on finding a solution to the problem and not just think in terms of what punishment to hand out to the problem-maker.
We should find means that would alleviate rather than aggravate the problem.
Where is our sense of tolerance and patience? Where is our feeling of compassion and mercy? When and where will we show it, if not in the masjid, of all the places? The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam) said:
“He who does not show mercy to others, will not be shown mercy.” (Bukhaari)
Did the sisters forget the time when they had little babies of their own and they cried too?
The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam) understood the agony that a mother goes through at such times. That’s why he (Sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam) said:
“When I enter the prayer I intend to prolong it. Then I hear the crying of a child, so I shorten it knowing the difficulty his mother will have with him crying.” (Bukhaari)
And aren’t we supposed to warmly receive a newcomer, and make them feel wanted and welcomed….especially one who is just coming back to Islaam?Isn’t being kind and tolerable, the very basis of our deen….the very essence of our Da’wah?
As Allaah says to the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam):
“By the grace of Allaah, you are gentle towards the people; if you had been stern and ill-tempered, they would have dispersed from round about you” (Surah Aal-‘Imraan:159)
Aren’t we supposed to behave courteously towards one another?
Didn’t the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam) tell us:
“He is a bad person in the sight of Allah who does not behave courteously and people shun his company because of his bad manners.“ (Bukhaari)
Was this the way to behave with the new sister?
Why weren’t we gentle and merciful to her?
Why couldn’t we be patient with her and her little baby?
Couldn’t we have dealt with the situation better?
Were we a means of pushing her away from coming to the Masjid?
Did we push her away from Islaam itself??!!
These are some of the questions that we seriously need to ask ourselves.
It is narrated by Mujahid (radiyAllaahu ‘anhu) that ‘Abdullah bin ‘Umar (radiyAllaahu ‘anhu) said, “Allah’s Apostle (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) took hold of my shoulder and said, ‘Be in this world as if you were a stranger or a traveler.”
The sub-narrator added: Ibn ‘Umar used to say, “If you survive till the evening, do not expect to be alive in the morning, and if you survive till the morning, do not expect to be alive in the evening, and take from your health for your sickness, and (take) from your life for your death.” [Bukhari: Book 8 Vol 76 Hadith 425]
The Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “If you are a group of three, two of you should not engage in a private conversation, leaving out the third.”
On another occasion, Ibn ‘Umar said that the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) forbade two men in a group of three from conducting a private conversation, leaving out the third.
[Musnad Ahmad, Vol. 2. p.9. It is saheeh according to the conditions set by al-Bukharee and Muslim]
Ruling on Masturbation in Islam and How to Cure the Problem.
First from the Qur’aan:
Imam Shafi’i stated that masturbation is forbidden based on the following verses from the Qur’aan (interpretation of the meaning):
“And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts, from illegal sexual acts). Except from their wives or (the captives and slaves) that their right hands possess, – for them, they are free from blame. But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors.” 23.5-7
Here the verses are clear in forbidding all illegal sexual acts (including masturbation) except for the wives or that their right hand possess. And whoever seeks beyond that is the transgressor.
“And let those who find not the financial means for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allah enriches them of His bounty.” 24.33.
This verse also clearly orders whoever does not have the financial means to marry to keep himself chaste and be patient in facing temptations (including masturbation) until Allah enriches them of His bounty.
Secondly, from the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace be upon him):
Abdullaah ibn Mas’ood said, “We were with the Prophet while we were young and had no wealth whatsoever. So Allaah’s Messenger said,”O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power.” Bukhari:5066.
The hadeeth orders men who are not able to marry to fast despite the hardship encountered in doing so, and not to masturbate despite the ease with which it can be done.
There are additional evidences that can be cited to support this ruling on masturbation, but due to the limited space we will not go through them here. Allaah knows what is best and most correct.
As for curing the habit of masturbation, we recommend the following suggestions:
1) The motive to seek a cure for this problem should be solely following Allaah’s orders and fearing His punishment.
2) A permanent and quick cure from this problem lies in marriage as soon as the person is able, as shown in the Prophet’s hadeeth.
3) Keeping oneself busy with what is good for this world and the hereafter is essential in breaking this habit before it becomes second nature after which it is very difficult to rid oneself of it.
4) Lowering the gaze (from looking at forbidden things such as pictures, movies etc.) will help suppress the desire before it leads one to commit the haraam (forbidden). Allaah orders men and women to lower their gaze as shown in the following two verses and in the Prophet’s hadeeth (interpretations of the meanings):
“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is all-aware of what they do. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.) ….. ” 24.30-31
Allaah’s messenger said: “Do not follow a casual (unintentional) look (at forbidden things) with another look.” Al-Tirmidhi 2777. This is a general instruction by the Prophet to abstain from all that may sexually excite a person because it might lead him/her to commit the haraam (forbidden).
5) Using one’s available leisure time in worshiping Allaah and increasing religious knowledge.
6) Being cautious not to develop any of the medical symptoms that may result from masturbation such as weak eyesight, weak nervous system, and/or back pain. More importantly, feeling of guilt and anxiety that can be complicated by missing obligatory prayers because of the need to shower (ghusl) after every incidence of masturbation.
7) Avoiding the illusion that some youth have that masturbation is permissible because it prevents them from committing illegal sexual acts such as fornication or even homosexuality.
8) Strengthening one’s willpower and avoiding spending time alone as recommended by the Prophet when he said “Do not spend the night alone” Ahmad 6919.
9) Following the Prophet’s aforementioned hadeeth and fast when possible, because fasting will temper one’s sexual desire and keep it under control. However, one should not overreact and swear by Allaah not to return to the act because if one does not honor one’s promise, one would be facing the consequences of not living up to one’s oath to Allaah. Also, note that medication to diminish one’s sexual desire is strictly prohibited because it might permanently affect one’s sexual ability.
10) Trying to follow the Prophet’s recommendation concerning the etiquette of getting ready for bed, such as reading well-known supplications, sleeping on the right side, and avoiding sleeping on the belly (the Prophet forbade sleeping on the belly).
11) Striving hard to be patient and chaste, because persistence will eventually, Allaah willing, lead to attaining those qualities as second nature, as the Prophet explains in the following hadeeth: “Whoever seeks chastity Allaah will make him chaste, and whoever seeks help from none but Allaah, He will help him, and whoever is patient He will make it easy for him, and no one has ever been given anything better than patience.” Bukhari:1469.
12) Repenting, asking forgiveness from Allaah, doing good deeds, and not losing hope and feeling despair are all prerequisites to curing this problem. Note that losing hope is one of the major sins punishable by Allaah.
13) Finally, Allaah is the Most Merciful and He always responds to whoever calls on Him. So, asking for Allah’s forgiveness will be accepted, by His will.
Wallahu a’lam. And Allah knows what is best and most correct.
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